Hello Princess Julie,

Here is my explanation. I am asking Holy Spirit to guide me as I write and to guide you as you read. He is the One Who leads us into all truth.

 You have chosen to forgive your mother for what has happened in the past. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you forget what has happened, but when you remember the bad things, you also remind yourself “I have chosen to forgive my mother. You then say, “Father God please bless my mother in every way.” The next time if she should say hurtful things you also choose once again to forgive her. Jesus told us that we do that every time there is an offence. How often? “Seventy times seven”!  Having said that, forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation, because it takes two people to do that. We are also told to honour our parents. Honouring your mother means you do that because she is your mother. It has nothing to do with the way she is acting. ........

Honouring your mother would mean not rehearsing to others what she has said or done, or speaking badly of her to others. This is a BIG thing and I pray God will give you grace to do that. She is your mother. Remember how David honoured King Saul despite all the bad things the King was doing to kill David. David would not let his men kill King Saul; David honoured Saul as king, and left it up to God to work it out.

Forgiveness does not mean that you have to contact your mother; you give her to God and pray for her, as you already do. But if she should contact you, then you remember King David and as you say, “Let it go.”. Ask Holy Spirit to give you wisdom and grace to know how to answer her. If she uses abusive words, you can say to God, “Father God you have heard what she has said. You know they are not true. I refuse those words, and I accept what You say about me instead. I am Your daughter a princess; You love me with an everlasting love; and You have told me that You delight in me. Thank You Father God, bless my mother in every way”

May God continue to show you His love in an even deeper way – oceans of love, all for you!

With love and blessings

Marion

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